After the successful release of her self-titled solo book last month, actress and entrepreneur Maricar Reyes-Poon continued to share her unique insight and motivation when it comes to living her best life in a recent social media post. In the Instagram reel, the 41-year-old artist shared her top four tips on how to forgive people.
Originally posted on her TikTok account, Maricar shared the short video on her Instagram account last November 15. “Forgiveness is the best beauty product in the world. And bitterness is the ultimate pampa-panget. Pero bakit ang hirap magpatawad? I think it’s because we have some misconceptions about forgiveness. So I will give you four things that forgiveness is not.
“Number one, forgiveness is not forgetting. Yung babalik kayo sa dati as if nothing happened. Not true. Tingin mo nakalimutan ko na lahat ng masama na nangyari sa akin? Hindi ah. The difference is, hindi na ganun kabigat pag naaalala ko sila. That’s because I remembered then I learned to adjust. For example nagpahiram ako ng pera, ilang beses akong hindi binayaran. Mahal ko pa rin yung tao and I still help when I can. Pero pagdating sa utang, hindi na. At alam na niya yun. We adjusted.
“Number two, forgiveness does not mean na wala nang consequence. Kung minali ka ng isang tao, kailangan niya harapin ang consequences ng mali niya kahit pinatawad mo na siya. Alam mo, years before my crisis, I told a lot of little lies and I never got caught. Yun nangyari sa akin, I think it’s partially because of all these lies. Nagpatong patong buong buhay ko tapos sumabog na lang siya sa mukha ko. It was my consequence for lying to myself and to others. Bilog talaga ang mundo. Maniwala kayo.
“Number three, forgiveness does not mean I am better than the other person. Yung the thought na, ‘Never ko gagawin yung ginawa niya sa akin. I am not as bad as that person, bakit ko siya patatawarin?’ Ito yung pinakamahirap. Kasi feeling ko mas mabait ako dun sa kagalit ko. But when I really took time to look at my own heart, I realize I wasn’t as clean as I thought I was. Hindi ako ganun kalinis. At minsan nakakalimutan ko yun pag may nagkakamali sa akin.
“So tanong mo si God if you believe in God. Itanong mo kung sa mata niya, does he believe you are morally superior? You are better than the other person? Na mas mahalaga ka sa mata niya compared sa tao na kagalit mo? And really wait for an answer. Baka magulat ka.
“Number four, forgiveness is not a one time, big time thing. Proseso siya. The deeper the hurt, the longer the process. So please be patient with yourself, don’t stop trying. Pag naramdaman mo na yung bitterness at yung pait sa puso mo, forgive ulit. Remember ulit. Nagkakamali ka din. Hihingi ka rin ng kapatawaran minsan. Remember ulit na haharapin niya ulit yung consequences ng pagkakamali niya. If not today, balang araw. And don’t forget, adjust your relationship. Para hindi ka na pualit ulit na nasasaktan. Learn.”
Maricar also stressed the importance of always practicing these steps in order to make it a natural habit. “Keep doing this until it becomes a habit. Over time it will get easier. Siyempre gusto ko lahat tayo maganda. At hindi nakaka-beauty ang pagiging bitter,” she added.
The pretty actress and book author released her self-titled book last month where she finally opened up about overcoming her video scandal more than a decade ago. Maricar was last seen acting in ABS-CBN primetime shows like Bagani, La Luna Sangre, and Home Sweetie Home.