Judy Ann Santos and Ryan Agoncillo appeared in the latest vlog of television host Bianca Gonzalez, where they offered some advice on love and trust.
In the 12-minute clip, the couple, who have been married for nearly 12 years, gave their advice to those who are scared to trust again after going through a heartbreak.
"You'll really never know when you'll be able to trust again unless you try to trust another person again. Para sa akin, kapag nasaktan ka, part naman 'yung ng lesson 'di ba? Sabi nga nila ang importante naman sa bawat moment na masaktan ka at magkamali ka is the lesson behind it. So push lang na nang push, try lang nang try and then you know, God will really bless you with someone who deserves your love, attention and respect," said Judy Ann.
For his part, Ryan said that he likes to think about trust as something more tangible.
"Ang hirap 'yung konsepto ng trust when you talk about love. Maybe we can talk about sports. I'd like to equate it to sports. Let's say, ako, sa mountain bike, 'pag sumemplang ako iisipin ko bakit ako sumemplang, pero magma-mountain bike at magma-mountain bike ako kasi gusto ko. So parang ganun din 'yung tingin ko sa love," he said.
"Pero siyempre matandain din ako. So tatandaan ko kung ano 'yung mga mali ko. But eventually, I know the next day, I'm going to get up and get on my mountain bike and attack the trail. Parang sabi nga nila sa mountain biking, 'You never ride the same trail twice.' Or let's say you're surfing, 'You never surf the same wave twice.' But you remember how you reacted as a person. The terrain might be different as in love, as in the sea, as in the mountain bike trail, but you react to it, 'yun 'yung poproblemahin mo. That's what you train youself for. You don't try and anticipate everything to be perfect. What you do is you prepare yourself," he added.
On how to tell if a person is worth of your trust, Judy Ann said it's when they try to learn your world.
"If a person somehow tries to understand what your world is and really try to not fit in, pero genuinely believes na kaya kong pumasok dito, iintindihin ko 'to at kakayanin ko 'to, medyo may pagbabago along the way. But you know, I believe, I wanna be with this person," she said.
"With me and Ryan, parang at some point, pareho kaming naging ganon," she went on. "'Yung pareho naming hindi napansin na naga-adjust na kami sa mundo ng isa't isa though hindi namin siya pinagu-usapan... Hindi [namin pinush] sa isa't isa that you have to understand my work, you have to understand where I'm coming from. Wala siyang naging ganun, 'yung talagang kinakalibre namin siya on our own, and then we just finally discovered na pareho na kaming nandun sa timezone na 'yun. 'Yung naintindihan ko na 'yung pinanggagaling niya, naiintindihan niya na rin 'yung pinanggagalingan ko. May mga issues along the way but we both try to face it together."
Judy Ann, 42, and Ryan, 41, will be celebrating their 12th anniversary as a married couple in April.
They tied the knot at San Juan Nepomuceno Church in San Juan, Batangas on April 28, 2009. They have three children: Yohan, 16, Lucho, 10, and Luna, 5.