Ruffa Gutierrez on not asking for child support: ‘Mangungutang muna ako kay mommy at saka kay Chard’

Rhea Manila Santos

Happy with the things happening in her life right now, Ruffa Gutierrez admitted she is just as content with things in her personal life as well.“I’m in a relationship and it’s been four years but it’s quiet. I’d like to keep it that way. Tama na yung IG. At least quiet siya. I like quiet relationships. Yung low key lang na wala masyadong gulo, wala masyadong nakikialam. I think that gives you peace of mind. Quiet na yung love life. At least hindi ako na-e-eskandalo. Tama na yun. Quiet lang,” she shared during her ALV Talent Circuit contract signing held last September 15 in Quezon city.She also revealed to being careful when it comes to marrying again. “As of now wala pa wedding plans. Because I’ve been there, I’ve done that so hindi naman ako masyado nagmamadali. If someone comes in my life na nakita ko naman na he will change my life in a great way then let’s see. Let’s take it from there.”More than five years since annulment of her marriage was granted, Ruffa share divulged she has not relied on any financial support from her ex-husband, businessman Yilmaz Bektas.“No he hasn’t given anything except for peanuts. I think that’s all he sent me from Istanbul. Just peanuts and maybe, I can’t even remember $2,000. Ang tagal na nun, 19 kopong-kopong pa. So wala pa siyang pinapadala and ayoko rin humingi at maghintay. Kasi kung ikaw gusto mo talaga magbigay, magbibigay ka. Buti kung poor ka, maiintindihan ko ‘di ba? Pero hindi naman. He’s successful.“My mom actually told me that don’t ask anymore kasi ‘maayos naman ang buhay mo.’ I thank God that I have a lot of projects. I’m able to raise them on my own so thank you for that. According to the court I have sole custody of the kids so I make decisions for them. I’m their mother and father,” she stated.The 43-year-old single mom said she is lucky that her daughters Lorin and Venice understand about their family situation.“They wonder about him but they’re very smart girls you know. Ganyan talaga ang buhay. Everything is not a fairy tale and even if you want life to be perfect it’s not. We live in an imperfect world and what’s great about my kids is that they’re mature enough to know that we’re on our own for now. I’m sure hinahanap niya (Yilmaz) yung kids pero kung gusto naman niya gumawa ng paraan eh di puwede siya gumawa ng paraan sa sarili niya. The kids are old enough so he can reach them on his own,” she added.Even though she is entitled to child support, Ruffa explained why she would prefer not to deal with Yilmaz anymore.“Because every time that we end up talking it does not end up in a good conversation. So might as well huwag na lang. Ayoko na ma-stress sa buhay ko. Tutal okay naman ako. Sana kung hindi ako okay or walang pumapasok na projects, walang trabaho, then I would be stressed. But I’m very thankful that I have a strong family, so bago ako mangutang sa kanya, mangungutang muna ako kay mommy at saka kay Chard (brother Richard). ‘Di ba? I feel like I’m strong enough naman,” she remarked.

She also revealed to being careful when it comes to marrying again. “As of now wala pa wedding plans. Because I’ve been there, I’ve done that so hindi naman ako masyado nagmamadali. If someone comes in my life na nakita ko naman na he will change my life in a great way then let’s see. Let’s take it from there.”More than five years since annulment of her marriage was granted, Ruffa share divulged she has not relied on any financial support from her ex-husband, businessman Yilmaz Bektas.“No he hasn’t given anything except for peanuts. I think that’s all he sent me from Istanbul. Just peanuts and maybe, I can’t even remember $2,000. Ang tagal na nun, 19 kopong-kopong pa. So wala pa siyang pinapadala and ayoko rin humingi at maghintay. Kasi kung ikaw gusto mo talaga magbigay, magbibigay ka. Buti kung poor ka, maiintindihan ko ‘di ba? Pero hindi naman. He’s successful.“My mom actually told me that don’t ask anymore kasi ‘maayos naman ang buhay mo.’ I thank God that I have a lot of projects. I’m able to raise them on my own so thank you for that. According to the court I have sole custody of the kids so I make decisions for them. I’m their mother and father,” she stated.The 43-year-old single mom said she is lucky that her daughters Lorin and Venice understand about their family situation.“They wonder about him but they’re very smart girls you know. Ganyan talaga ang buhay. Everything is not a fairy tale and even if you want life to be perfect it’s not. We live in an imperfect world and what’s great about my kids is that they’re mature enough to know that we’re on our own for now. I’m sure hinahanap niya (Yilmaz) yung kids pero kung gusto naman niya gumawa ng paraan eh di puwede siya gumawa ng paraan sa sarili niya. The kids are old enough so he can reach them on his own,” she added.Even though she is entitled to child support, Ruffa explained why she would prefer not to deal with Yilmaz anymore.“Because every time that we end up talking it does not end up in a good conversation. So might as well huwag na lang. Ayoko na ma-stress sa buhay ko. Tutal okay naman ako. Sana kung hindi ako okay or walang pumapasok na projects, walang trabaho, then I would be stressed. But I’m very thankful that I have a strong family, so bago ako mangutang sa kanya, mangungutang muna ako kay mommy at saka kay Chard (brother Richard). ‘Di ba? I feel like I’m strong enough naman,” she remarked.

Happy with the things happening in her life right now, Ruffa Gutierrez admitted she is just as content with things in her personal life as well.“I’m in a relationship and it’s been four years but it’s quiet. I’d like to keep it that way. Tama na yung IG. At least quiet siya. I like quiet relationships. Yung low key lang na wala masyadong gulo, wala masyadong nakikialam. I think that gives you peace of mind. Quiet na yung love life. At least hindi ako na-e-eskandalo. Tama na yun. Quiet lang,” she shared during her ALV Talent Circuit contract signing held last September 15 in Quezon city.

The reality TV star talks about how she handles her personal life and raising her kids on her own.

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