“Hindi lang magkaroon ng boyfriend o hindi lang magkaroon ng girlfriend at this point in time, nafu-frustrate na sila. That is not how love goes.”
True to her label as the “Inspirational Diva,” Jamie Rivera shared words of wisdom during the bloggers’ conference for her upcoming Valentine’s Day concert, All About Love.
To be held on February 13 at the grand ballroom of the Sofitel Philippine Plaza, Jamie said her repertoire will cover different kinds of love such as romantic love, familial love, love for the country, and love for one’s self, among others. Coincidentally, the singer-songwriter gave advice about these various aspects in love throughout the event.
1. Getting hurt makes you appreciate love more
According to Jamie, there are several reasons why you get hurt by the ones you love.
“Because you love kasi kung hindi ka naman nagmahal, hindi ka naman masasaktan, eh… Secondly, pwedeng nagmahal ka at hindi para sa’yo ‘yung tao na ‘yun so since hindi para sa’yo ‘yung tao na ‘yun, mawawala ‘yun kasi hindi nga para sa’yo… Thirdly, there’s always a reason for everything. Pwedeng nasaktan ka dahil para sa’yo nga ‘yung tao pero nasaktan ka para matuto ka,” she said.
Jamie continued, “Sometimes, God would like you to experience all these things, all these pain for you to be stronger at para ma-appreciate mo ‘yung next love mo. Para ma-appreciate mo what is really love.” She also said that getting hurt and quarrels also spice up a relationship, adding that it would be boring if there are no challenges.
If love is a person, she said she would tell this, “You are very lucky that you found love. You are very lucky that you got hurt. It’s cliché but it’s true. It’s better to have loved than never to have loved at all.”
2. Cherish your problems because they make you stronger
Although she gave this as an advice to new artists, people from various walks of life who also want to venture into new activities can also relate to what she said.
“Cherish your problems. Face them head on kasi that’s the only thing you could do to learn. Kasi kung wala kang naging problema during your time na bata ka pa, ‘yun ‘yung magiging bullet mo, weapon mo for you to become stronger.”
She also said that it is okay to make mistakes when you try new things and in moving on. “It’s always good to get out of your comfort zone… Balang araw, babalikan mo ‘yung nangyari sa’yo, pagtatawanan mo na lang and magiging thankful ka na rin. You will feel more blessed.”
3. Do not be in a rush to fall in love or be in a relationship
Jamie said that she noticed a lot of millennials are in a hurry to fall in love.
“Hindi lang magkaroon ng boyfriend o hindi lang magkaroon ng girlfriend at this point in time, nafu-frustrate na sila. That is not how love goes. Love comes in different (ways) and it will come at the right time. Kaya sabi ko, God is love because he will give you your loved ones at the right time, in His time.”
Saying that she dedicates the song, “Some Enchanted Evening” to these millennials, Jamie continued on, “It talks about hindi mo alam na ‘yung magiging boyfriend mo pala o magiging partner mo, nandiyan lang pala sa tabi.”
“For the millennials, do not hurry. The right person will come at the right time and hindi mo alam, nandiyan lang pala sa tabi mo.”
4. Get rid of the anxieties and insecurities
Celebrating 30 years in the business, Jamie was asked what she would like to tell herself, to which she answered, “Get rid of the anxieties.”
Admitting that at her age, she still has many insecurities. “But I would tell myself, count your blessings. Nadaanan mo na lahat. Marami ka nang natanggap na blessings sa mundong ito and dapat ‘yung anxieties mo, ‘yung insecurities mo, tapon mo na ‘yan because it does not come from the Lord,” she said, adding that these things will only pull you down.
“That is not the right thing to do especially when God is with you. Because God has given you so much blessings kaya dapat be thankful.”
“I’m not saying that you don’t have any right to be sad, it’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to not feel good because that’s when you learn, that’s when you become strong. It also means that you’re still human, gano’n,” she said and reiterated to just be grateful.