Patrick Garcia’s wife admits she had insecurities whenever he would spend time with his and Jennylyn Mercado’s son Jazz before they were married.
Patrick Garcia’s wife Nikka Martinez-Garcia shared on her blog how God has
helped her move on from her insecurities and reach out to the mother of her
husband’s son Jazz, actress Jennylyn Mercado.
In her blog post , entitled, A Boy
After My Heart dated July 16, Nikka opened up how, at first, she would feel
insecure whenever Patrick visits Jazz at Jennylyn’s house.
“When Pat and I were just dating; I was
young and still a little immature. I was confident in mostly everything except
his past. Knowing that he has a son whom he adores with someone he used to
love, not to mention, a very good-looking person… brought about the feeling of
INSECURITY in me,” she wrote. Saying that although she strongly supports
Patrick in visiting his son, she would, “Start
creating crazy scenarios in my head, over analyze certain things, look at my
watch every now and then,” among others, without him knowing.
Admitting that she would contemplate about
whether or not she would tell him about how she feels, Nikka shared that
Patrick would sometimes bring her with him she but would back out, and would choose to stay in the car or outside
“There would be debates in my head (probably
the entire trip to her house) whether I should go down or stay in the car. I
just didn’t know my place. I didn’t know how to act. I did not want to make
pa-extra. I did not want to be a distraction. I did not want to show disrespect
in any kind of way with my presence. I did not want to do anything that may
cause him not to see his joy.”
But because she knew how happy Patrick feels
whenever he sees his son, she said she would forget her insecurities as it makes
her so happy as well.
However, although she got used to this kind of set-up, she
admitted feeling bothered again when they got engaged as the thought of being a
do I do? What is the “right” feeling for this? How should I be? How should I
act? So many questions I just could not seem to answer or even come close to
answering. No matter how sanay I was with our routine, this was going to be a
little bit different now. I knew that I was not only going to have to learn how
to have a relationship with Jazz, my husband’s son, but I would eventually have
to have some kind of relationship my fiance’s former girlfriend, the mother of
his child,” she wrote, adding that she kept praying about it.
time came when they were preparing for their wedding, Nikka recalled waking up
one morning “extremely bothered” that she was not able to concentrate while
praying. That was when she felt the urge to reach out to Jennylyn, “I did not tell ANYONE about this, especially Patrick.
I did not want anyone to influence what it was I was feeling. If I were to do
this, I wanted to do this according to what God was putting in my heart.”
Jennylyn through text, Nikka noted entrusting what may happen to God, “I thought to myself, ‘Lord, bahala ka na. You know
what’s in my heart. If this is from You, then all will be well. If this is Your
plan, then Jen will reply.’ And in less than 5 minutes from the time the
message was sent, I got a reply. Take note, we haven’t met. I introduced myself
and asked if we can meet to talk. She agreed. Iba talaga ang Panginoon!!!”
Consequently, the two met and talked with Nikka assuring her
that she will be a good and supportive “Tita” to Jazz. “It was casual. It was
peaceful. It was nice. I knew in my heart that this was definitely God’s plan.
God took away all my insecurity and replaced it with genuine admiration. He
took away jealousy and replaced it with compassion,” she wrote about the
She then described how happy Patrick felt upon learning that
Jazz will be joining their wedding. Nikka also said, “I have nothing but
respect for Jen because she is the mom of Jazz. I know my place in Jazz’s life.
I am and always will be his Tita Nikka, who loves and cares for him genuinely.”
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