Nikka Martinez shares how she reached out to Jennylyn Mercado

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<img src='' alt='071816-JennylynMercado.jpg' width='400' height='290' align='left' border='0'>ActorPatrick Garcia’s wife Nikka Martinez-Garcia shared on her blog how God hashelped her move on from her insecurities and reach out to the mother of herhusband’s son Jazz, actress Jennylyn Mercado. <a href='http://www.nikkagarcia.com/a-boy-after-my-heart/'>In her blog post</a> , <o:p></o:p>entitled, A BoyAfter My Heart dated July 16, Nikka opened up how, at first, she would feelinsecure whenever Patrick visits Jazz at Jennylyn’s house.“When Pat and I were just dating; I wasyoung and still a little immature. I was confident in mostly everything excepthis past. Knowing that he has a son whom he adores with someone he used tolove, not to mention, a very good-looking person… brought about the feeling ofINSECURITY in me,” she wrote. Saying that although she strongly supportsPatrick in visiting his son, she would, “Startcreating crazy scenarios in my head, over analyze certain things, look at mywatch every now and then,” among others, without him knowing.Admitting that she would contemplate aboutwhether or not she would tell him about how she feels, Nikka shared thatPatrick would sometimes bring her with him she but would back out, and would choose to stay in the car or outsideJennylyn’s home.“There would be debates in my head (probablythe entire trip to her house) whether I should go down or stay in the car. Ijust didn’t know my place. I didn’t know how to act. I did not want to makepa-extra. I did not want to be a distraction. I did not want to show disrespectin any kind of way with my presence. I did not want to do anything that maycause him not to see his joy.”But because she knew how happy Patrick feelswhenever he sees his son, she said she would forget her insecurities as it makesher so happy as well.<span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size:13.0pt;font-family:"Calibri Light","sans-serif";mso-fareast-font-family:Calibri;mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-PH;mso-fareast-language:EN-US;mso-bidi-language:AR-SA'>However, although she got used to this kind of set-up, sheadmitted feeling bothered again when they got engaged as the thought of being astepmother lingered. “Whatdo I do? What is the “right” feeling for this? How should I be? How should Iact? So many questions I just could not seem to answer or even come close toanswering. No matter how sanay I was with our routine, this was going to be alittle bit different now. I knew that I was not only going to have to learn howto have a relationship with Jazz, my husband’s son, but I would eventually haveto have some kind of relationship my fiance’s former girlfriend, the mother ofhis child,” she wrote, adding that she kept praying about it. <o:p></o:p><o:p> </o:p>Thetime came when they were preparing for their wedding, Nikka recalled waking upone morning “extremely bothered” that she was not able to concentrate whilepraying. That was when she felt the urge to reach out to Jennylyn, “<span style='background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>I did not tell ANYONE about this, especially Patrick.I did not want anyone to influence what it was I was feeling. If I were to dothis, I wanted to do this according to what God was putting in my heart.”<o:p></o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'><o:p> </o:p>ContactingJennylyn through text, Nikka noted entrusting what may happen to God, “<span style='background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>I thought to myself, ‘Lord, bahala ka na. You knowwhat’s in my heart. If this is from You, then all will be well. If this is Yourplan, then Jen will reply.’ And in less than 5 minutes from the time themessage was sent, I got a reply. Take note, we haven’t met. I introduced myselfand asked if we can meet to talk. She agreed. Iba talaga ang Panginoon!!!”<o:p></o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'><o:p> </o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>Consequently, the two met and talked with Nikka assuring herthat she will be a good and supportive “Tita” to Jazz. “It was casual. It waspeaceful. It was nice. I knew in my heart that this was definitely God’s plan.God took away all my insecurity and replaced it with genuine admiration. Hetook away jealousy and replaced it with compassion,” she wrote about themeeting. <o:p></o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'><o:p> </o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>She then described how happy Patrick felt upon learning thatJazz will be joining their wedding. Nikka also said, “I have nothing butrespect for Jen because she is the mom of Jazz. I know my place in Jazz’s life.I am and always will be his Tita Nikka, who loves and cares for him genuinely.”<o:p></o:p> Photo credit: Niceprint Photography

“There would be debates in my head (probablythe entire trip to her house) whether I should go down or stay in the car. Ijust didn’t know my place. I didn’t know how to act. I did not want to makepa-extra. I did not want to be a distraction. I did not want to show disrespectin any kind of way with my presence. I did not want to do anything that maycause him not to see his joy.”But because she knew how happy Patrick feelswhenever he sees his son, she said she would forget her insecurities as it makesher so happy as well.<span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size:13.0pt;font-family:"Calibri Light","sans-serif";mso-fareast-font-family:Calibri;mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-PH;mso-fareast-language:EN-US;mso-bidi-language:AR-SA'>However, although she got used to this kind of set-up, sheadmitted feeling bothered again when they got engaged as the thought of being astepmother lingered. “Whatdo I do? What is the “right” feeling for this? How should I be? How should Iact? So many questions I just could not seem to answer or even come close toanswering. No matter how sanay I was with our routine, this was going to be alittle bit different now. I knew that I was not only going to have to learn howto have a relationship with Jazz, my husband’s son, but I would eventually haveto have some kind of relationship my fiance’s former girlfriend, the mother ofhis child,” she wrote, adding that she kept praying about it. <o:p></o:p><o:p> </o:p>Thetime came when they were preparing for their wedding, Nikka recalled waking upone morning “extremely bothered” that she was not able to concentrate whilepraying. That was when she felt the urge to reach out to Jennylyn, “<span style='background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>I did not tell ANYONE about this, especially Patrick.I did not want anyone to influence what it was I was feeling. If I were to dothis, I wanted to do this according to what God was putting in my heart.”<o:p></o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'><o:p> </o:p>ContactingJennylyn through text, Nikka noted entrusting what may happen to God, “<span style='background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>I thought to myself, ‘Lord, bahala ka na. You knowwhat’s in my heart. If this is from You, then all will be well. If this is Yourplan, then Jen will reply.’ And in less than 5 minutes from the time themessage was sent, I got a reply. Take note, we haven’t met. I introduced myselfand asked if we can meet to talk. She agreed. Iba talaga ang Panginoon!!!”<o:p></o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'><o:p> </o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>Consequently, the two met and talked with Nikka assuring herthat she will be a good and supportive “Tita” to Jazz. “It was casual. It waspeaceful. It was nice. I knew in my heart that this was definitely God’s plan.God took away all my insecurity and replaced it with genuine admiration. Hetook away jealousy and replaced it with compassion,” she wrote about themeeting. <o:p></o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'><o:p> </o:p><span lang='EN-PH' style='font-size: 13pt; color: rgb(17, 17, 17); background-image: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-size: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial;'>She then described how happy Patrick felt upon learning thatJazz will be joining their wedding. Nikka also said, “I have nothing butrespect for Jen because she is the mom of Jazz. I know my place in Jazz’s life.I am and always will be his Tita Nikka, who loves and cares for him genuinely.”<o:p></o:p> Photo credit: Niceprint Photography

<img src='' alt='071816-JennylynMercado.jpg' width='400' height='290' align='left' border='0'>ActorPatrick Garcia’s wife Nikka Martinez-Garcia shared on her blog how God hashelped her move on from her insecurities and reach out to the mother of herhusband’s son Jazz, actress Jennylyn Mercado. <a href='http://www.nikkagarcia.com/a-boy-after-my-heart/'>In her blog post</a> , <o:p></o:p>entitled, A BoyAfter My Heart dated July 16, Nikka opened up how, at first, she would feelinsecure whenever Patrick visits Jazz at Jennylyn’s house.“When Pat and I were just dating; I wasyoung and still a little immature. I was confident in mostly everything excepthis past. Knowing that he has a son whom he adores with someone he used tolove, not to mention, a very good-looking person… brought about the feeling ofINSECURITY in me,” she wrote. Saying that although she strongly supportsPatrick in visiting his son, she would, “Startcreating crazy scenarios in my head, over analyze certain things, look at mywatch every now and then,” among others, without him knowing.Admitting that she would contemplate aboutwhether or not she would tell him about how she feels, Nikka shared thatPatrick would sometimes bring her with him she but would back out, and would choose to stay in the car or outsideJennylyn’s home.

Patrick Garcia’s wife admits she had insecurities whenever he would spend time with his and Jennylyn Mercado’s son Jazz before they were married.

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