Judy Ann Santos: Parenthood lends perspective

Juday on enforcing disciplinary action to her kids: 'We can't say kasi na pwede kaming hindi mamalo ng bata, na hindi kami mag-scold ng bata kasi it really depends kung ano 'yung sitwasyon'


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10/8/2013 11:39 AM
Judy Ann Santos: Parenthood lends perspective

100813-Juday_Main.jpgAlthough she considers herself a hands-on mom, “Bet On Your Baby” host Judy Ann Santos rates herself a semi-satisfying seven out of ten when asked how good she is as a mother.

Ako seven kasi may mga pagkakataon na wala ako, kagaya ngayon nasa trabaho ako [and] … because I know I have to improve myself more to become a better mother,” explained Juday during a recently-concluded press conference for her upcoming game show “Bet On Your Baby.”

Being a mother, according to Juday, has allowed her to discover a different facet of herself she never thought existed but one that aligned her to all the other mothers that she has come to know. 

Since her kids Juan Luis Agoncillo and Johanna Louis Agoncillo came into her life, Juday confessed that she became happier, more energetic, and utterly selfless.

Basta gising ang anak mo gising ka din kasi mag-aalaga ka, magluluto, maglilinis ng bahay, makikipaglaro ka sakanila, ‘pag tulog na sila doon mo lang mare-realize na ‘pagod na pagod pala ako.’ Pero mas [matindi ‘yung emosyon] na kapag umuuwi ka you look forward to going home because you want to check on your kids, you want to see them before they go to sleep. Totoo ‘yun,” she shared.

What’s more is that she was also able to disprove her former belief that the quintessential “mother’s instinct” is something that one should master.

“‘Yung instinct ng pagiging ina lumalabas lang pala ‘yon, akala ko aaralin mo pa, hindi pala. Iba-iba tayo ng mga experiences sa mga mommies natin sa mga kaibigan natin na naging mommies, hindi talaga pwedeng i-compare,” she added. 

While many would presume that she and husband Ryan Agoncillo, being well-paid celebrities dote on their children excessively, the former "Huwag Ka Lang Mawawala" star revealed that they actually impose certain “limitations” in terms of giving positive reinforcements especially when it comes to gadgets.

… Kami ni Ryan we believe na lahat ng mga bata ngayon mae-experience at mae-experience nila say ‘yung technology, ‘yan ‘yung pinakabagong kinagigiliwan ng mga bata ngayon at ng mga matatanda. 

Hindi namin sila mapagbawalan kasi nakikita rin nila kami na may mga gadgets rin pero may limitasyon like ‘oh ‘pag kakain walang iPad, walang cellphone, walang TV’ or ‘Pag maglalaro, pwede kang maglaro ng iPad for an hour or two hours pero magkahiwalay. ‘Pag sunod-sunod nanaman ‘yung ganon na hindi namin namo-monitor, ‘pag gabi storybook na lang tayo,” she narrated.

The idea she says is to allow the kids to actually enjoy the gadgets instead of restraining them to use it because “… the more na lilimitahan mo ‘yung bata, the more sila na nagtatago sayo at hindi mo talaga nalalaman kung ano ang ginagawa nila… [and] tatakasan ka ng anak mo at matututo na silang magsinungaling sayo.

Having mentioned restraining, Juday related that when it comes to enforcing disciplinary actions to their children they prefer to handle it on a case-to-case basis rather than establishing a definite set of cardinal rules that must be adhered to at all times.

Wala naman talaga kaming cardinal rules sa pagdi-disiplina sa mga bata… We can’t say kasi na pwede kaming hindi mamalo ng bata, na hindi kami mag-scold ng bata kasi it really depends kung ano ‘yung sitwasyon. Kasi papano kung nanapok na or nangupit na hindi mo paba papagalitan? Hindi naman sinabi na putulin mo ang kamay pero sa panahon na ‘yun you have to put your foot down already. Siguro kapag lumaki-laki na sila like ‘yung teens or pre-teens dyan na papasok ‘yung cardinal rules na ‘no boys allowed, no girls allowed,” said she.

Meanwhile, the 35-year-old superstar is very much excited for the public to see her newest baby and her second stint as a host that is "Bet On Your Baby." 

The local franchise of the hit American game show will have toddlers from 2 to 3 ½ years old as “contestants” who would complete certain games that would test how strong their bond is with their parents.

Juday assured that the show, which she dubbed as “breather” from her past heavy-drama projects, would be an educational experience both for the parents and the soon-to-be parents alike.

As for the prizes, Juday proudly shared that everyone who would join, win or lose, would surely go home happy. 

"Lahat [ng contestants], may mauuwing cash prize kasi bawat game, they can go home with either P5,000 or P10,000. Sa jackpot round, walang matatalo kasi P50,000 ang cash prize to as high as P1 million," said she.

“Bet On Your Baby” hosted by Judy Ann Santos is set to hit the Philippine television this October.